The Power of the People Around Us
“The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great.
We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the best version of ourselves.” – Matthew Kelly
This quote is powerful because it is true; I have lived it. I never had a formal education, yet I have been fortunate to excel in my career. Why? Because I was surrounded by great people who turned the lights on for me. At sixteen, a high school graphics teacher helped me land my first printing job. At nineteen, a mentor took me under his wing for over a decade. Throughout my life, colleagues, mentors, and friends have shared wisdom that shaped who I am today.
Listen to the Right Voices
Being surrounded by people who influence us is one thing, but listening is another. Some voices lower our standards: the coworker who says it is okay to show up late or take supplies home because “no one will notice.” Those voices lead to darkness. Instead, seek out those who encourage, support, and teach.
And remember, God gave us two ears for a reason. In leadership and in life, you are never the smartest person in the room. Everyone has knowledge to share if you are willing to listen. Even Elon Musk, with all his brilliance, could learn something about printing or construction from someone like me who has walked that path.
Collaboration is Leadership
True leadership is not about having all the answers, it is about collaboration. A great leader listens, digests input and makes decisions that serve the greater good of all parties involved, not just themselves. That requires humility. Success without openness leads to ego, and ego blinds leaders to the value of others’ knowledge.
Collaboration allows others to shine their light. It is about knowing who to bring into the room, which vendors or colleagues to seek out, and when to step aside so others can contribute.
Be Resourceful and Curious
One of the greatest lessons I learned was to always seek the answer. As a leader, colleagues often came to me for guidance. Sometimes, I knew the answer immediately. But when I didn’t, I refused to push them off to someone else. Instead, I would say, “I am not sure, let me get back to you.” Then I would research, find the solution, and share it.
That approach gave my colleague their answer, but it also gave me new knowledge. Together, we both grew. Too often, people detach and leave themselves in the dark. Instead, be the person who turns on the light for others and, in the process, learns something new yourself.
Final Thoughts
Do not wander in darkness. Surround yourself with people who raise your standards. Be humble enough to listen, wise enough to collaborate, and resourceful enough to seek knowledge. The most important step? Be open to allowing others to turn on the lights.
